What is essential is invisible to the eye.

I believe that every single person has a redeeming quality to them.  No matter how horrible of a person you may think they are, I bet if you were to get them in the right environment where they are actually comfortable enough to be themselves, or to let the good in them shine through, then you will find yourself very pleasantly surprised.  I believe that you absolutely can NOT write someone off as a waste of space or as someone who shouldn't have been born, or even worse, as someone who deserves to die.  Who are we to make these decisions?  I feel like you cannot accurately judge someone's character until you know absolutely everything about them.  Every single facet of their character, of what makes them who they are, every bit of their being.  And that is quite frankly downright impossible.  Therefore absolutely no one can determine that someone else is a waste of space.  The universe put us here for some reason, and we will probably never know what that reason is, so who are we to say that someone else doesn't belong here if we don't even know why we're here.  I refuse to write someone off as a waste of space, because for all I know I could be a worse waste of space than they are, and who am I to judge this?

And as far as the whole letting the good of someone shine through, I have had perfectly lovely conversations with people who everyone deems a "waste of space."  Most people are only jerks to show off to the jerky people around them.  Its a context thing.  Given the right context any person could be anything.  3rd grade, I'm never going to forget this.  Kid who everyone wrote off as the biggest jerk ever, he lives on a farm his family owns.  He brought in an entire box of baby chickens, itty bitty  little fluffball chicks.  He had us all sit in a circle on the floor, and he let all the chicks out of the box into the middle of the circle.  I was staring at a little brown fuzzball, and its one thing to look at a fluffy baby chicken, and another thing entirely to hold a little fuzzball.  He scooped the chick up and plopped it into my hands with a huge smile on his face.  I have heard neverending stories of how much of a jerk that guy is, all the awful things he might've done to people, but I know that regardless, he's not a bad person.  Sometimes people do bad things because something is wrong in their lives at the moment, because of a history they've had, because of the people they're around.  It doesn't make them bad people.  It just means they haven't had the opportunity to be a good person.

So I'm going to end this post with a little reminder to not judge people too harshly, because how would you feel if they judged you the same way?  How would you feel if someone wrote YOU off as a complete waste of space?  Kind of a sucky feeling, isn't it?

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly.  What is essential is invisible to the eye. - Antoine de Saint - Exupery

Love,
Jessie

I wanna live, I wanna give, I've been a miner for a heart of gold.  Its these expressions I never give, that keep me searching for a heart of gold.  I've been to Hollywood, I've been to redwood, I'd cross the ocean for a heart of gold.  I've been in my mind, its such a fine line, that keeps me searching for a heart of gold.  - Neil Young